The ObservatoryProgram21 days2–15 min per daySocialCompassion
Relationships that last
Three weeks with what research actually shows holds a couple or a friendship together: the pattern you bring into love, the art of conversation, the rules of a quarrel, and the way back after one. Not grand gestures, but the habits that make someone stay.
How it works
One exercise, session or article per day for 21 days. You go at your own pace — the app remembers where you are, and you can pause and restart whenever you want.
Day by day
- 14 minSelf-assessmentHow are your relationships doing?Four scales about closeness, frequency and the unsaid — not how many friends you have, but how the bonds actually feel.
- 22 minArticleRelationships are one of the best-documented health factors we overlookWe measure blood pressure, steps and sleep. Something that is linked to a long life about as strongly as smoking rarely makes the list: your relationships.
- 32 minArticleThe map of how you loveWhy do some people respond to silence with pursuit and others with flight? Attachment research drew the map, and showed that it can be redrawn.
- 411 minExerciseYour pattern in loveSecure, anxious or avoidant: the pattern you learned early comes along into love. But it is a tendency, not a verdict.
- 55 minSelf-assessmentLove or need?Six honest scales on the difference between loving someone and not being able to manage without them.
- 612 minExerciseYour inner circleWho actually gets your time, and does it match who matters most?
- 78 minToolThe temperature checkFive minutes a day that keeps a relationship up to date, before small things have had time to become big ones.
Show all 21 days
- 8Active listening12 min
- 9When someone shares good news9 min
- 10Say it without accusing10 min
- 11The unsaid10 min
- 12The hard social choice10 min
- 13Ground rules for arguing12 min
- 14The conflict ladder13 min
- 15Meeting someone else's anger10 min
- 16Repair after an argument10 min
- 17Room for reconciliation9 min
- 18Forgiving someone15 min
- 19The anatomy of jealousy11 min
- 20The wish box9 min
- 21How are your relationships doing?4 min
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