The ObservatoryActive listening
Practice simply listening, with no advice and no stories of your own, and let the silence be. It strengthens the feeling of being understood.
How it works
- What active listening isChoose
- Dare to be silentChoose
- Get readyChoose
- Practice and noticeWrite
Active listening does not mean waiting for your turn to speak. It means keeping your focus entirely on the other person: no advice, no stories of your own, no quick fixes. We start by practicing recognizing it.
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Why does it work?
Really listening, without advice or personal stories, strengthens the feeling of being understood, which builds stronger relationships. Relationships are in turn one of the strongest factors for health. Source: Holt-Lunstad et al., PLoS Medicine (2010).
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