The ObservatoryCompassion for a difficult person
A gentle exercise for loosening your own grip on irritation toward someone who gets under your skin, not for their sake, but for yours.
How it works
- Who gets under your skinWrite
- What the irritation costs youWriteBreathe
- The person behind the behaviorWriteChoose
- A simple wishWrite
- Take with youWriteList
There is almost always someone. A colleague, a neighbor, a relative, someone in your everyday flow: a person who makes your jaw tighten without having done anything big. This exercise is not about excusing anyone or liki …
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Why does it work?
Regular loving-kindness meditation has been linked in studies to increased positive emotions and, over time, to more personal resources such as more perceived social support (Fredrickson, Cohn, Coffey, Pek & Finkel, 2008).
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