The ObservatoryHow are your relationships doing?
Four scales about closeness, frequency and the unsaid — not how many friends you have, but how the bonds actually feel.
How it works
- The bondsRate
- The unsaidRateWrite
Research on loneliness distinguishes between being alone and feeling lonely — the latter is about quality, not number.
Self-assessment in 2 steps, about 4 minutes. Doing it is part of Premium, which you try free for 7 days with no card. With Premium your answers are saved so you can pick up where you left off and look back at what you wrote.
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Why does it work?
Structured self-reflection, not a validated instrument. The difference between objective isolation and felt loneliness is well established, and both are linked to a raised risk of early death — the meta-analysis found no difference between them (Holt-Lunstad et al. 2015).
Account, your first assessment with the hexagon and one new measurement every quarter are free. The rest is part of Premium: SEK 99 a month or SEK 699 a year, VAT included.
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Five minutes a day that keeps a relationship up to date, before small things have had time to become big ones.
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Exercise10 minThe hard social choice
Four everyday scenarios where you practice answering wisely in the moment, not just afterward