The ObservatoryPart of your social wellbeing
Relationship quality
Trust, authenticity and perceived quality in close relationships.
How it's measured
3 statements in the wellbeing assessment, scored from "doesn't apply at all" to "applies completely".
- I am satisfied with the quality of my closest relationships.
- I can be myself with the people who are close to me.
- My close relationships are marked by trust.
Where you work with it
The life areas in this section — assess yourself, answer the questions, and track them over time.
Close relationships
Not ratedThe quality of relationships with partner, family and close friends.
Communication
Not ratedThe ability to listen, express needs and understand others.
Trust and safety
Not ratedWhether you feel safe with other people and can rely on them.
Conflict and relational stress
Not ratedThe presence of conflict, tension and destructive relationships.
Getting started
Self-assessment
How are your relationships doing?
Four scales about closeness, frequency and the unsaid — not how many friends you have, but how the bonds actually feel.
4 min · Rationality
Tool
The temperature check
Five minutes a day that keeps a relationship up to date, before small things have had time to become big ones.
8 min · Compassion
Exercise
Relationship upkeep
Relationships are kept alive by small, regular signs, not grand gestures. Map what has slipped and book a contact.
10 min · Discipline
Exercise
The wish box
Nagging changes nothing. Concrete, doable wishes do. Three slips each, one fulfilled in the week.
9 min · Compassion
Self-assessment
Love or need?
Six honest scales on the difference between loving someone and not being able to manage without them.
5 min · Rationality
Exercise
The hard social choice
Four everyday scenarios where you practice answering wisely in the moment, not just afterward
10 min · Compassion
Session
A kind wish
A classic warmth exercise (metta) that directs kindness toward yourself, someone you love, and someone who is difficult right now
9 min · Compassion
Tool
The relationship thermometer
A recurring way to see how your most important relationships are doing, in a single overview.
9 min · Compassion
How's your relationship quality?
The wellbeing assessment gives you a profile across all six dimensions, and you see it change over time. Free account, no payment.