The ObservatoryCommunication
The ability to listen, express needs and understand others.
Questions to ask yourself
- 1How well do you manage to say what you actually mean?
- 2How good are you at listening without preparing your reply?
- 3Which conversations do you avoid even though they are needed?
- 4When were you last truly understood, and what made that possible?
- 5Which conversation do you want to have this week, and how will you open it?
In the app, you rate the area 0–10, answer the questions, and watch how your answers shift over time.
Getting started
Exercise
Active listening
Practice simply listening, with no advice and no stories of your own, and let the silence be. It strengthens the feeling of being understood.
12 min · Compassion
Exercise
Say it without accusing
Turn something hard you need to say from accusation into an I-message — and decide when you will say it.
10 min · Discipline
Exercise
The unsaid
Something you have wanted to say to someone has been left lying around. Here you unpack it, carefully.
10 min · Compassion
Exercise
When someone shares good news
How you respond to other people's joy builds the relationship more than how you comfort them in hardship.
9 min · Discipline
Tool
The temperature check
Five minutes a day that keeps a relationship up to date, before small things have had time to become big ones.
8 min · Compassion
Session
Before the hard conversation
Land in your body and clarify what you want to say and what you are afraid of, before you go in
8 min · Compassion
Exercise
The hard social choice
Four everyday scenarios where you practice answering wisely in the moment, not just afterward
10 min · Compassion