The ObservatoryRelationship upkeep
Relationships are kept alive by small, regular signs, not grand gestures. Map what has slipped and book a contact.
How it works
- Who is out thereList
- What held it togetherWrite
- Choose oneChoose
- Book the signWrite
Don't think about everyone you know. Think about the people you care about but haven't been in touch with for a while. The ones who slipped out of view without anything being wrong.
Exercise in 4 steps, about 10 minutes. Doing it is part of Premium, which you try free for 7 days with no card. With Premium your answers are saved so you can pick up where you left off and look back at what you wrote.
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Why does it work?
Social ties are among the strongest known predictors of health and well-being (meta-analysis Holt-Lunstad 2010), and they are kept alive by regular contact. Small reach-out signals are systematically underestimated: the recipient appreciates them more than the sender expects (Liu et al. 2023).
Account, your first assessment with the hexagon and one new measurement every quarter are free. The rest is part of Premium: SEK 99 a month or SEK 699 a year, VAT included.
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