The ObservatoryThe relationship thermometer
A recurring way to see how your most important relationships are doing, in a single overview.
How it works
- Your most importantList
- Take the temperatureRate
- The coldest oneChoose
- Come backChoose
This is not a daily ritual for one relationship at a time. It is an overview: four to six of the relationships that matter most, seen at once.
Tool in 4 steps, about 9 minutes. Doing it is part of Premium, which you try free for 7 days with no card. With Premium your answers are saved so you can pick up where you left off and look back at what you wrote.
Try PremiumThe rest of the text and the exercise are part of Premium. You try everything for 7 days with no card, and can cancel whenever you like. Sign in if you already have an account.
Why does it work?
Regular, positive contact keeps relationships stronger over time than occasional large efforts. This is a recurring pattern in relationship research, including in Gottman and Levenson's observational studies of couples. The rating here is structured reflection, not a validated measurement instrument.
Account, your first assessment with the hexagon and one new measurement every quarter are free. The rest is part of Premium: SEK 99 a month or SEK 699 a year, VAT included.
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