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After you lost your patience with your child

Every parent gets angry sometimes. What counts is what happens afterwards. See what your child's feeling was about and prepare a short repair.

The path

How it works

  1. What happenedWrite
  2. Your child's feelingChooseWrite
  3. Your own feelingChoose
  4. The repairWriteChoose
Think of a recent time when you got angry with your child, raised your voice or said something you regret. It does not have to be the worst time.

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The evidence

Why does it work?

Havighurst, Wilson, Harley, Prior & Kehoe (2010), Tuning in to Kids: Improving emotion socialization practices in parents of preschool children – findings from a community trial, Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 51(12), 1342–1350: cluster-randomised study with 216 parents (96% mothers) of children aged 4–5. Six group sessions in emotion coaching led to less dismissive and more coaching responses to children's negative emotions, and fewer parent-reported behaviour problems, compared with the waitlist. The repair conversation is an application, not a tested method. If you are afraid of harming your child, seek support.

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