The ObservatoryTrust and safety
Whether you feel safe with other people and can rely on them.
Questions to ask yourself
- 1How easy is it for you to trust people?
- 2With whom can you be completely yourself?
- 3Where in your life do you keep your guard up, and why?
- 4Has trust once been damaged in a way that still steers you?
- 5How can you lower your guard a little, in a small and safe way?
In the app, you rate the area 0–10, answer the questions, and watch how your answers shift over time.
Getting started
Exercise
Your pattern in love
Secure, anxious or avoidant: the pattern you learned early comes along into love. But it is a tendency, not a verdict.
11 min · Rationality
Article
The map of how you love
Why do some people respond to silence with pursuit and others with flight? Attachment research drew the map, and showed that it can be redrawn.
2 min · Rationality
Self-assessment
Love or need?
Six honest scales on the difference between loving someone and not being able to manage without them.
5 min · Rationality
Exercise
The anatomy of jealousy
Jealousy is seldom what it claims to be. Take it apart, and choose a response that doesn't damage what it wants to protect.
11 min · Rationality
Exercise
Forgiving someone
Forgiveness isn't saying it was okay. It's ceasing to pay interest on someone else's debt: a process in four steps.
15 min · Compassion
Session
Room for reconciliation
A quiet moment that makes it possible to carry a grudge a little more lightly, with no demand to forgive
9 min · Compassion
Article
When someone has been unfaithful
What happens inside you when you find out, why nothing has to be decided today, and what research says about couples who try to move on.
5 min · Compassion