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Program21 days3–15 min per dayOccupationalDiscipline

21 days toward better boundaries

Three weeks for those who say yes when they mean no. Week one you map: where energy leaks, what matters most, where the boundary should be. Week two you train the words: saying no with respect, saying it without blame, repairing when it grates. Week three you turn the boundary into a habit: plans for when it gets tested, and compassion for the days it slips. You measure your work-life balance on day two and day twenty-one. The difference is yours.

How it works

One exercise, session or article per day for 21 days. You go at your own pace — the app remembers where you are, and you can pause and restart whenever you want.

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Day by day

  1. 1
    Story
    The day Erik left his phone alone
    A small boundary that changed more than it seemed to.
    3 min
  2. 2
    Self-assessment
    How are you doing at work?
    Six scales over the core of working wellbeing: influence, competence, belonging, demands, meaning and the boundary against the rest of life.
    4 min
  3. 3
    Exercise
    The energy audit
    Map what in your job gives energy and what drains it, and reshape a little of it.
    15 min
  4. 4
    Exercise
    What matters most?
    Put this week's tasks in priority order and give the most important ones a place in your time.
    9 min
  5. 5
    Exercise
    Your inner circle
    Who actually gets your time, and does it match who matters most?
    12 min
  6. 6
    Exercise
    This week's value
    Choose a value that matters, and give it one concrete action this week.
    10 min
  7. 7
    Exercise
    Setting boundaries
    See where work eats time that was yours, set a concrete rule — like no emails after six — and hold it when it is tested.
    15 min
Show all 21 days
  1. 8Say no with respect10 min
  2. 9Say it without accusing10 min
  3. 10The kind boundary12 min
  4. 11The unsaid10 min
  5. 12The call Jonas kept putting off4 min
  6. 13Repair after an argument10 min
  7. 14The inner boss12 min
  8. 15The if-then plan10 min
  9. 16Digital sunset6 min
  10. 17One track at a time10 min
  11. 18WOOP: wish meets reality12 min
  12. 19After the slip11 min
  13. 20The good-enough day9 min
  14. 21How are you doing at work?4 min

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