The ObservatoryAcceptance and reconciliation
Being able to accept what cannot be changed, and make peace with the past.
Questions to ask yourself
- 1How much have you made peace with what in your life didn't go the way you wanted?
- 2What are you still fighting against even though it can't be changed?
- 3What does that resistance cost you in energy?
- 4What have you already accepted that was once hard, and how did that happen?
- 5How can you take a step toward letting go of something you have no control over?
In the app, you rate the area 0–10, answer the questions, and watch how your answers shift over time.
Getting started
Exercise
Forgiving yourself
Stop carrying the punishment indefinitely, without glossing over what happened.
11 min · Compassion
Article
What forgiveness is, and isn't
The word is so loaded that many people hold back from something that would help them. A sorting.
2 min · Compassion
Exercise
Forgiving someone
Forgiveness isn't saying it was okay. It's ceasing to pay interest on someone else's debt: a process in four steps.
15 min · Compassion
Exercise
Rewrite a chapter
You tell your life to yourself every day, and the version you choose shapes you. Write a dark chapter once more, just as true but complete.
14 min · Compassion
Exercise
The responsibility pie
When something has gone wrong, the blame tends to take the whole pie. Here you count up and give each factor its real slice.
10 min · Rationality
Exercise
After the breakup
Being left, or leaving, tears up more than the relationship. A gentle worksheet for the first while.
12 min · Compassion
Story
Simon and the contact rules
The first weeks after a breakup, and what actually helped.
5 min · Compassion
Exercise
Two minutes: room for the hard thing, one step anyway
Let the hard thing come along, and do one small thing that matters to you
2 min · Discipline