The ObservatoryThe responsibility pie
When something has gone wrong, the blame tends to take the whole pie. Here you count up and give each factor its real slice.
How it works
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- All the factors on the tableList
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Choose something you blame yourself for: a failed project, an argument, a decision that went wrong. Something that still grates.
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Why does it work?
The responsibility pie (the pie technique) comes from cognitive therapy for compulsions and excessive guilt (van Oppen & Arntz 1994) and is widely used in CBT for self-criticism and overresponsibility. The technique is clinically established; the component's own effect has been sparsely studied.
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