The ObservatoryPart of your social wellbeing
Reciprocity and contribution
The experience that relationships involve a reasonable amount of giving and taking, and that one matters to others.
How it's measured
3 statements in the wellbeing assessment, scored from "doesn't apply at all" to "applies completely".
- I feel that my relationships are built on a reasonable amount of giving and taking.
- I can be a support to people who are important to me.
- I feel that I contribute positively in my relationships.
Where you work with it
The life areas in this section — assess yourself, answer the questions, and track them over time.
Getting started
Exercise
Caring without going under
When someone you love is struggling, the line between helping and disappearing into it is razor-thin. Find it.
12 min · Compassion
Exercise
Say no with respect
See what makes no hard, practice a short and friendly no without an apology, and have the wording ready before you need it.
10 min · Discipline
Exercise
Helping without taking over
Someone you care about is struggling. The art is to support them in a way that grows their own strength, not yours.
10 min · Compassion
Exercise
The wish box
Nagging changes nothing. Concrete, doable wishes do. Three slips each, one fulfilled in the week.
9 min · Compassion
Exercise
Adult to adult with your parents
Ten minutes with family and you're fifteen again. The dance has been practiced for decades, but it only takes ONE person changing their step.
12 min · Compassion
Session
Before the hard conversation
Land in your body and clarify what you want to say and what you are afraid of, before you go in
8 min · Compassion
Exercise
The boundary in the moment
Practice saying no in the moment, to an acquaintance, a mother-in-law and a colleague who pushes
12 min · Discipline
Exercise
Seven minutes: a contribution that becomes yours
Find a small way to do good for someone, one you choose yourself, that fits your energy and where you get to see that it arrived
7 min · Compassion
How's your reciprocity and contribution?
The wellbeing assessment gives you a profile across all six dimensions, and you see it change over time. Free account, no payment.