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When it hurts

A gentle companion for hard moments: grief, regret, a mistake that grates. Nothing that is meant to fix you, just tools so you don't carry it alone.

  1. 1 · Article
    When it's urgent
    Sometimes exercises aren't enough. Here are the routes to real help, kept in one place for the moments you need them.
    1 min läsning · Emotional · Compassion
  2. 2 · Session
    Carrying what hurts
    A quiet moment to meet grief or longing, not to solve it, but so you don't carry it alone.
    9 min · Emotional · Compassion
  3. 3 · Exercise
    Forgiving yourself
    Stop carrying the punishment indefinitely, without glossing over what happened.
    11 min · Existential · Compassion
  4. 4 · Article
    Grief can't be rushed
    Why grief doesn't follow neat stages, and what actually helps when something hurts badly.
    3 min läsning · Emotional · Compassion
  5. 5 · Exercise
    RAIN: meet a difficult feeling
    Four steps for meeting a difficult feeling without fixing it away.
    10 min · Emotional · Compassion
  6. 6 · Exercise
    After the slip
    A small recovery ritual for the minutes right after something has gone wrong at work, before you have time to turn it all inward.
    11 min · Occupational · Compassion
  7. 7 · Session
    5-4-3-2-1: come back to the present
    An emergency tool for moments when your thoughts are racing. Anchor yourself in what is around you.
    5 min · Emotional · Compassion
  8. 8 · Exercise
    Write your way through it
    Four days, a quarter of an hour a day, the same difficult event. The protocol that turns chaos into a story, with hundreds of studies behind it.
    15 min · Emotional · Compassion
  9. 9 · Exercise
    After the breakup
    Being left, or leaving, tears up more than the relationship. A gentle worksheet for the first while.
    12 min · Social · Compassion
  10. 10 · Exercise
    What you hide
    Shame grows in the dark and shrinks in the light. A careful exercise about what you never tell.
    12 min · Emotional · Compassion
  11. 11 · Article
    Shame and guilt are not the same thing
    Guilt says "I did something wrong" and can repair things. Shame says "I am wrong" and repairs nothing. The difference changes everything.
    1 min läsning · Emotional · Compassion
  12. 12 · Article
    What forgiveness is, and isn't
    The word is so loaded that many people hold back from something that would help them. A sorting.
    2 min läsning · Social · Compassion

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