The ObservatoryMy inner voice and my boundaries
Write a calm, clear boundary script for a situation where you tend to give in, and practice saying it.
How it works
- From the bookRate
- Identify the silenceListWrite
- Write your boundary scriptWrite
- Say it out loudRateWrite
- The small winWrite
I have often been described as blunt and sometimes uncomfortable. My ADD means the filter between thought and speech is sometimes nonexistent. That has led to social complications — conversations with bosses that became …
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Why does it work?
Setting boundaries is trained in the interpersonal effectiveness skills of DBT (Linehan 1993, 2015), and self-determination is linked to motivation and wellbeing (Deci & Ryan 2000). The individual script has not been tested as a method in its own right; the support applies to the skills in general.
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