The ObservatoryThree credits and a thank-you
Notice what works in others and in yourself, and say it out loud — concretely, not as empty praise.
How it works
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- Why the good slips pastChoose
- Credit to someone elseListWriteChoose
- Credit to yourselfListWrite
- Send it and carry onWrite
We live in a culture where criticism often takes priority. We are quick to point out mistakes, but stingy about noticing what actually works. The most neglected area is often our own inner monologue: we are masters at wh …
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Why does it work?
Positive reinforcement is a well-established learning principle (Skinner 1953), and people underestimate how much appreciation makes others happier (Kumar & Epley 2018). The effect of gratitude exercises is, however, small to moderate (Davis et al. 2016).
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