The ObservatoryThe relationship map and a small reach-out
Map your relationships in three circles and reach out to someone with a short message.
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I'll be honest: I have never been particularly good at relationships. It isn't that I don't care — on the contrary, I often carry a great deal of care for the people in my life. The problem is that I often lack the execu …
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Why does it work?
Strong social connection is linked to longer life: Holt-Lunstad et al. (2010) pooled 148 studies and found about a 50 percent greater likelihood of survival, and Waldinger & Schulz (2023) describe the same pattern from the Harvard study. These are observational studies; they show an association, not that this particular exercise produces the effect.
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