The ObservatoryHow do you talk to yourself?
Six scales inspired by the three pairs of self-compassion: kindness versus self-criticism, connectedness versus isolation, presence versus rumination.
How it works
- When it is hardRate
- The perspectiveRate
Think of a recent period when something went against you, and answer based on how you actually responded, not how you should have.
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Why does it work?
Inspired by Neff's three components of self-compassion (2003), but simplified and NOT the validated SCS instrument. That self-compassion can be trained, with moderate effects on well-being, is shown in the meta-analysis Ferrari m.fl. (2019).
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