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Exercise15 minSocialDiscipline

Timing without pressure

Find a contact who still feels alive and send a small, friendly first hello.

The path

How it works

  1. From the bookWrite
  2. Who feels alive?ListWrite
  3. A small first helloChooseWriteRate
  4. Afterwards, and the week that has passedChooseWrite
On one hand you risk smothering interest by being too pushy; on the other, silence can be read as indifference. You do not want to come across as desperate, but if you wait too long to follow up on a contact, the opportu …

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The evidence

Why does it work?

The idea of giving first builds on Grant's (2013) book on givers and on reciprocity research (Cialdini, 2001). No study shows that following up within a certain number of hours gives better results, so the time frame is a rule of thumb and the support for it is weak.

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