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Exercise1 minSocialCompassion

One minute: send a sign of life

Three lines to someone you thought of, before the thought slips past

The path

How it works

  1. Send itChoose
  2. Afterward
Think of someone you haven’t been in touch with for a while. Not the most obvious choice, but the person who just crossed your mind. Write three lines, nothing more. “Thought of you.” Or: “Saw this and it reminded me of …

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The evidence

Why does it work?

We systematically underestimate how much an unsolicited sign of life is appreciated by the recipient. The gap between how the sender thinks it will land and how it is actually received is large. Source: Liu, Rim, Min & Min (2023), The surprise of reaching out, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

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