The ObservatoryThe eulogy
There are two kinds of merit: those that fit on a CV and those that are mentioned in a eulogy. A gentle exercise in hearing the difference, and letting it adjust the week.
How it works
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CV merits are what you achieve: titles, degrees, projects. Eulogy merits are what you are to others: “she made you feel seen”, “he was the one you called”. Both are needed, but only the first tends to get a calendar. Thi …
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Why does it work?
Vail et al., Personality and Social Psychology Review (2012): conscious, reflective reminders of life’s finitude can strengthen prosocial goals and investment in relationships. The CV-versus-eulogy virtues framework comes from Covey (1989) and Brooks (2015). It is pedagogy, not a clinical method.
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