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Exercise10 minSocialCompassion

The compass of envy

Envy is uncomfortable information, not a character flaw. Read what your envy points toward.

The path

How it works

  1. Meet the stingWrite
  2. No judgmentChoose
  3. Read the compassWrite
  4. Turn it into a stepWrite
Think of a time recently when someone else's success gave you a sting. A post, a piece of news, a friend's announcement. You don't have to like the feeling. Just see it.

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The evidence

Why does it work?

van de Ven, Zeelenberg & Pieters (2009, 2011): envy can be divided into benign envy, linked to motivation to improve one's own situation, and malicious envy, aimed at harming the other person.

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