The ObservatoryThe circle of control
Sort a stressful situation into what you control, what you influence and what you can't control, and choose an action.
How it works
- From the bookWrite
- Draw the circlesList
- Shift the energyWrite
- Act and let goWrite
- The week that passedWrite
Imagine you are sitting in a small sailboat in the middle of an endless sea. You can hoist the sails and steer toward a goal, or leave the sails down and drift with the currents. This is a picture of our relationship to …
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Why does it work?
The distinction between what is up to us and what is not comes from the Stoic Epictetus; coping research shows that problem-focused coping fits best when something can be changed and emotion-focused coping when it can't (Folkman 1984). The circle exercise itself has not been tested in a study of its own.
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