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Exercise10 minEmotionalRationality

Anger as messenger

Anger is information, not something to be ashamed of. Cool down first, then decode what it wants to tell you.

The path

How it works

  1. A fresh angerWrite
  2. Cool the body firstBreathe
  3. What is it protecting?ChooseWrite
  4. A mature responseWrite
Anger has a bad reputation. But it is rarely the problem. It is a signal. Bring up a time not long ago when you got angry. Whether it was mild irritation or real rage does not matter.

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The evidence

Why does it work?

Averill (1983), anger as a relational signal; Lieberman et al. (2007), affect labeling dampens the amygdala response.

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